Dating Love The Dud[e]s

Opposites attract

March 17, 2020

Continuation from Jake… (the pic above is from 2009, when I was in DC with Jake. He picked a flower and stuck it behind my ear while we were strolling downtown one evening). I loved the western part of the country.  It’s vastness and openness, the opportunities to really feel like you’re in the middle of nowhere, to soak up the silence and the beauty of Mother Nature. …

Dating Love The Dud[e]s

Love triangle fallout

January 19, 2020

Continuation from Finding myself in a love triangle…. Bryan was supposed to be out playing poker with some buddies. When I got home, his car was still gone. I was relieved. I went inside, changed clothes, and went to bed. I must have fallen asleep quickly because I don’t even remember him coming to bed. I got up before him the next morning and made some coffee. I…

Dating Love The Dud[e]s

Finding myself in a love triangle

January 16, 2020

Continuation from Cowboy, Part 2 A few months after Eric and I broke up, I began dating another guy. His name was Bryan. Bryan was sweet, funny, substantially older than me (15 years my senior). He had just gotten a divorce when we met, although he had been separated for a while. Bryan was the dad to two young daughters. I was 21 or 22 at the time,…

Dating Love The Dud[e]s

Cowboy, Part 2

January 13, 2020

Continuation from Falling in love with Cowboy I took Eric home to meet my family and we went out to a steakhouse. I wasn’t sure how my mom and dad would react – he was a far cry from the pretty boys I’d dated before. Then again, I hadn’t exactly had many boyfriends. He drove an old blue Ford pickup, lifted with huge tires. It was a redneck…

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The L-word

July 22, 2018

I started writing a post on May-December relationships and I felt pulled in a different direction as I thought back on some of my past loves.  Sit tight for May-December, I’ll finish it next. For now, hold my hand as we venture down the rabbit hole of the L-word, with all its social trappings and knee-jerk reactions. I can tell you with absolute clarity all the details surrounding…


Why you should unfriend and block your exes

April 30, 2018

Keeping an ex in your social networks is like a dragging around a stinking heap of psychological baggage (which, turns out, is not a sexy accessory).  If you’re someone who has the profiles and contact information of exes lurking in your social networks and phones — this post is for you. It’s healthy to remove exes from your social networks.  Block them from communication.  Delete them from your…

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Single women are not “broken”

April 3, 2018

So last night, I was browsing through other blogs by single women, and I came across a post that kind of irritated the shit out of me.  I’m paraphrasing here, but the title was something along the lines of “why you’re still single” – as written to a female audience of women in their mid-thirties and beyond.  Because what a miserable existence that must be! I should mention,…


Rose-colored lenses

April 3, 2018

I was on the phone with a dear friend of mine last night and we were talking about the memoir I’m writing, which chronicles my dad’s suicide and my subsequent cross-country bicycle ride in 2010.  I hadn’t planned for my on-again, off-again boyfriend at the time (let’s call him Jake) to be such an antagonist in the story.  However, recounting the whole experience with him helped me see…