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It’s been 10 years since I hung up my heels.

December 29, 2019

I was browsing YouTube a few nights ago and a video from a stripper was in my feed. Curious, I clicked on it and watched a “get ready with me” video of a young (maybe 19 year-old) girl, listening as she talked about the darker side of dancing… the things, as she put it, “they don’t tell you about.” From J-Lo’s recent movie, “Hustlers” to Cardi B’s candid…

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Jumping before you’re “ready”

November 13, 2019

I love to be ready for things. Love it. I love planning. I love making lists. I love researching – OH do I love researching. I love learning everything I can possibly learn about something, examining it from every angle, anticipating every possible hurdle, and planning solutions to said obstacles before I take any real action. Planning, writing out goals, dreaming about what’s next in my life… those…

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Triggered

January 4, 2019

Several months ago, I was talking with a friend about being “triggered” – that feeling when someone says something to you that brings up strong emotions surrounding past experiences.  Triggers – why we have them and when they occur – are interesting to me.  I’m not generally an emotionally reactive person.  A steady, analytical earth sign, I usually respond to things rationally.  That doesn’t mean I don’t have…

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Who do you think you are???

May 7, 2018

I spent the last four days in a writing fury, committed to taking on the parts of my book proposal that seemed most daunting.  I noticed myself feeling like an imposter during the process, as many of us do when we take on something new.  But moving past that grimy feeling of being a poser necessary if we want to pave new roads for ourselves.  So I wanted…

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Hey Perfectionists! This is for you. Part I

May 4, 2018

I wanted to write a post about perfectionism in my confidence series because it’s one of the biggest confidence killers there is.  You know how I’ve been droning on and on about how essential action is to building confidence?  Well it’s true.  Action is critical.  And nothing will throw a wrench in intentions to take action like the paralysis caused by perfectionism. Perfectionists don’t want to do anything until…

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An examination of male confidence

April 26, 2018

*Let me begin by saying I love men, and I want them to feel confident.  This post is not an attack on male confidence at all. Rather, it’s a look at the differences between male and female confidence.  It is also full of generalizations.  To be sure, not all men have superhero confidence, and not all  women lack it. Also, the graphics in this post are meant to be tongue-in-cheek.  Now,…

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The crisis of women’s confidence

April 24, 2018
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I just finished reading The Confidence Code, by Claire Shipman and Katty Kay.  All women should read this book, especially mothers of girls and those who are struggling with their confidence (which, according to research, is most of us).  There is so much valuable information in this book and the authors back each of their assertions with research and expert interviews.  The Confidence Code had been on my long list…